ToquiNotes: As Both Face Disappointments, an Open Letter to BHS Class of 2020 from the Class of 1990
- Focus on the Right Things: One of the biggest challenges for any new graduate, whether they are dealing with a pandemic or not, is where to focus their attention. It is easy to let your mind wander towards all the different what if scenarios in life. What if I chose the wrong major? What if I chose the wrong college? What if I don’t make new friends? If you allow it, the list can go on and on. You see, what if scenarios are limitless – they have no finish line and can become a great distraction and source of stress and anxiety. Try and always keep your focus on the present moment. What is happening right now that you can control. Keep your focus on what you can control and keep making the next best decision over and over.
- Narrow Your Focus: When setting goals for yourself, be very specific and intentional. Prior to getting started in the process, ask yourself these three questions – Is it possible? Am I capable? and Am I willing? Of these three questions, am I willing is probably the most important question. You are going to find out that achieving ‘big goals,’ in life, requires making ‘big sacrifices’. But, if you prepare for this ahead of time and are willing to make the sacrifices, then you will be more apt to accomplish your goal.
- Adjust Your Focus: Make sure you maintain great clarity around your purpose in life. Don’t worry, if you don’t have it figured out right now (as your purpose will change from time to time) but always stay true to yourself. Focus on the ‘why’ as much as the ‘what’. What do you want to achieve in life? And, why is this important to you? Once you have figured this out – write it down and keep reminding yourself of your ‘what’ and your ‘why’.